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for real…

12 Dec

For waiting and waiting, the wheels are now turning.  We got back word on my PET scan…not that big of a malignancy and no metastasis that they can detect anywhere else.  That was a relief; we jumped around excitedly for about 24 hours and then the fact that I still do have cancer (and pretty rare, bad cancer) settled back into our thoughts.  Also, my diligence with MD Anderson has paid off…they have accepted me and my insurance cleared it…wahoo!  AND they want me there next week.  Of course, I’m there…though what a rough time for us…number one it Christmas holidays and number two…we own a gift shop.  Thankfully, family is taking the reigns and I’m learning to let go of my baby I created almost three years ago.  For the first time since this diagnosis, I’m afraid.  I think I was hoping in a small way the MD Anderson would call and say…”wow you hardly have cancer; stay with your local ENT and you’ll be ok FOREVER!”.  Now that they’ve accepted me; I know its serious…I know surgery is inevitable…and a long recovery.

Another hard issue has been explaining this to my friends and family.  Everyone has so many questions (so do I!) and I do my best to keep everyone informed yet they always say after I’ve gone through detail by detail, “I know…but blah blah”  In particular, about Christmas…my family and extended family are trying to desperately plan and asking me repeatedly if I’ll be home.  Seriously, I could be in recovery???  I’m doing this so I can be there for every Christmas afterward.   Its a lot for anyone to wrap their head around so I’m trying to be patient.


hang in there…

7 Dec

Its funny when you tell someone you have cancer they immediately tell you about someone they know or heard of that beat it and is now totally fine…like it was the common cold.   I certainly hope to be in that number, but it gets tiring — I almost want to shake people and scream “no, this is different”.  No one wants to come face to face with mortality, so I don’t burst their bubble.  Also, everyone seems keen on finding me something to do or keeping me preoccupied…which is funny because I still have the same life I did before my diagnosis with all its problems, errands, dreams, etc.  My main concern right now is to get the piece of shit tumor out of my head that is actively trying to kill me.  Its been a week since my PET scan with no news (despite my calling for the results).  I should know very soon too if I have been medically accepted by MD Anderson…which will be the best Christmas gift ever especially as I saw my PET scan orders that day of the scan that read routine on status.   As best I can tell nothing nothing is routine about this cancer and the irony of everything is how fast you feel time passing since your diagnosis yet all you do is wait wait wait for results and treatment.

here. in my head.

1 Dec

Its been awhile since I’ve written and with good reason.  I’ve been battling for years and lets say for the two last years in and out of doctor’s offices with suspected TMJ, fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue.  I have to say I had grown comfortable with all these diagnosis, though I was not improving, they were a label and they were not truly bad.

After a bad impacted ear my girlfriend urge me to go to the ENT and show her the painful lump in my jaw.  It’s been felt up so much by dentists, oral surgeons, doctors it could be called a slut…and was often mistaken for a tight muscle associated with TMJ.  The ENT doc immediately thought it to be a tumor on my parotid gland and scheduled a CT scan.  No biggie, I read 80% are not cancerous.  I had the CT scan and then we followed with a needle biopsy (which was incredibly painful) and days later we had our diagnosis.  Cancer indeed.  And not any old cancer…a very rare cancer called Adenoid Cystic Carcinoma.

Yesterday, I went for a PET Scan and will have the results soon to know the extent of the disease.  Knowing how I feel (how I’ve been feeling for years),  I’m not entirely thrilled with all being revealed.  I am actively taking responsibility for my care and I’m in the process of self referring myself to MD Anderson for consultation and hopefully acceptance.  They are the closest to me doing the most advanced work with this type of cancer.

Again, my girlfriend is urging me to write about this to help others.  Though I’m not sure how much help I could be…if you found this, you may already be diagnosed and as I’m learning every case is completely different.  I will tell you the following:

  • I’m 35
  • no one in five generations of my family ever had cancer
  • i never asked my doctors enough questions or the right ones
  • i was satisfied with diagnoses that were not congruent with what I was feeling
  • i want to fight

with all my heart…

29 Jul

This is for my doctor, for whom I can not get on the phone today other than to speak to her ASSistant, Marvin.  The Doctor that seemed SO concerned that I might have a cyst on my jaw and the source of constant headaches, decides through Marvin, that I do not need further testing to see if it IS a cyst?!  Are there ANY caregivers out there that actually give CARE?  or CARE?

I’m already preparing for a second opinion…just needed a safe place to vent.  Oh and BTW thanks for turning of your cell phone during our appointment, Doctor…a consummate professional, hmmf.

ces petits riens

20 Jul

loving this song, Ces Petits Riens right now from Stacey Kent…it means the “those little things”

It is making for a lovely respite from the craziness that has become my life and reminds me to treasure all those little things around me!  Also, I’ve decided to learn to crochet…I am teaching myself…it is not going well.   I am reading a non-fiction book my mother passed to me, The House Always Wins: America’s Most Trusted Home Columnist’s Guide to Creating Your (Almost) Perfect Dream House.  It is humorous in parts and informative in others…but there is a part of me that just wants to slug the author, who writes from specifying and decorating her dream home, and say “stop your whining…at least you have the money to do this and a roof over your head!”  Do you ever feel like some people obsess about their homes in the way we did about our lives as high schoolers…as THESE are the MOST important decisions WE will make for the REST of our L-I-V-E-S!!! Yeah…I love my home and I love making it my home but I’ve never lost sleep over any decorating dilemma or had a salesperson take a Valium as I vacillated over three shades of the same green tile.  Go with your instincts and what makes you happy!

***Update 7/26/10 – I officially hate this book; I just got to the chapter that she uses a hot glue gun to make drapery.  I’m no sewing machine whiz but there is a little thing called fusible web (I think stitch witchery is a brand)…you just iron it in place and you are done…I can just imagine on a hot summer day her drapes falling apart…what an imbecile.

hi ho

12 Jul

…off to work I go!  At least that is what it has felt like for the last two weeks.  I have worked everyday without exception and when I go home I work more.  The realities of owning your own business *pinches self*

Here is what I did squeeze out for myself in my minuscule personal time:

This adorable Market Bag from Posie Gets Cozy.  It’s my first real attempt at sewing anything…let alone from a pattern.  I hand cross stitched the initial on the front pocket.  C was very impressed and immediately brought it to one of our friends that sews professionally and she laughed at it…laughed.  I still love it…she did think my cross stitch was machined…so, at least I can do that respectfully!

Our little nestlings left the nest yesterday.  That was quick…I was hoping we could enjoy them a little longer.  At least the mail lady will be pleased that mama won’t screech at her delivering the mail any longer.

And on my day off today (working I tell you!)…this is what I’ve been doing.  Loading all these neat mosaics my friend does and sells at the shop on our main website.  Have you seen it yet?  You should, we are really the most fantastic store you’ve never heard about…I swear, no bias in that statement…whatsoever!  Har har.

le weekend: in review

5 Jul
  • pillow made: slightly smaller to make up for lack of material, no zipper, polyfil, and the rosettes keep popping off
  • I am reading Balzac and the Little Chinese Seamstress: A Novel
  • as a vegetarian, this was the only hot dog I had on Independence Day
  • neighbors confused New Years Eve with Fourth of July and set fireworks off way into the wee hours of the morning.
  • special delivery: the house wrens have returned to our newspaper box and set up household…this time with FIVE baby chicks…boy, are they cute!